You know the vices are the problem.
So why can't you stop?

You've connected the dots.

You get that your vices—YouTube, Reddit, TikTok, the endless scrolling—are killing your motivation.And maybe for the first time, it all made sense.Why you've been stuck. Why your energy's been so low. Why your enthusiasm never seems to last.You felt clarity. Maybe even hope.But despite all that...

You've basically circled back to where you started (except with one more "failed attempt" under your belt).

That was me for the longest time.

I knew exactly what my vices were doing to my motivation levels. I knew they were behind all the stress, anxiety, and lethargy I was feeling every day.Plus I wasn't even enjoying them anymore. The jokes, the memes... it had long stopped being funny.I was just done. On every level. Consciously, logically, emotionally.And yet I kept coming back. Day after day. Week after week.

I just... I had zero effing ability to stick with my commitments. And I couldn’t, for the life of me, figure out why (except that I was a pathetic failure, wasting away my life).I mean, it should be simple, right?

And yet… I’d do it anyway. Over and over and over.

It made zero sense.For over a decade, I was just so utterly stuck.It was a really dark time.

How I (finally) got better

In 2016, while aimlessly browsing Reddit (100% while avoiding work), I stumbled on a comment that caught my eye.Someone claimed they had quit smoking… just by reading an old book.I was skeptical, of course. I mean, how could a bunch of words influence anyone into breaking any bad habit—let alone one of the worst ones still legal?But the more I looked into it, the more hype and success stories I found. So, with nothing to lose, I decided to read it—mentally swapping every mention of “cigarettes” with “YouTube” or “Reddit.”

The Easy Way To Stop Smoking by Allen Carr gave me a whole new perspective on habits and addiction. It explained that quitting shouldn't be about mustering willpower to resist something you desperately want. No, the real move is to dismantle the desire itself—so that willpower, discipline, and self-control don’t even enter the equation.That’s the core argument: smoking is one big illusion, and once you see through it, there’s nothing you’re actually giving up by quitting. Nothing to sacrifice. No benefits to part with—unless you include the relief of quenching a nicotine craving, which, as Carr writes, is like putting on tight shoes all day to enjoy the "relief" of taking them off.With this perspective, apparently quitting becomes effortless and "easy".Interesting.

While it was an eye-opener, the book didn’t really change my habits.It did, however, give me a renewed sense of hope—and a new trail to follow.I began to see it clearly: my way out wasn’t going to be found in the books and programs of all the self-help gurus I’d followed—people who, I realized, had never really dealt with the kind of problem I was facing.No. I needed to learn from people who had. People who, like me, had spent years—decades even—stuck in a rut of compulsive, irrational, self-destructive behavior.I needed to learn from addicts.That’s when I discovered a whole library of sobriety memoirs.

These were a lifeline.They were raw. Honest. Messy. Relatable in a way nothing else had been. (If you’re curious, I especially recommend We Are The Luckiest by Laura McKowen).For the first time ever, I felt understood.Sure, their stories were often more extreme. But the emotional core? Identical.And the advice wasn’t about “optimizing your morning routine” or “chasing your goals by wanting it more.”It was about self-compassion. About forgiveness. About the power of self-love and acceptance.They were about finding your way to not doing the thing because you’d found a way to not want to do the thing. Because you found a better, more constructive way to deal with life's stresses and pains and disappointments.There was no talk of mastering willpower or summoning self-control. No instructions on getting disciplined and strong enough to power through a lifetime of urges and desires.That old mindset—the one I thought was the only way—I could finally let that shit go.Honestly, I think that’s really what I needed most. To just let go. To accept myself and my life, as they were.To just... be.Because this, quite paradoxically, was the only thing that ever drove me towards actual growth and better habits.

The (original) Habit Reframe Method

During this period, I knew I had to do something with what I was learning. So I started piecing together my own self-improvement system from scratch.Like any prototype, it showed early promise. But then one part failed… which broke another… until the whole thing collapsed.Still—I kept at it. Every time it fell apart, I’d stop, reflect, adjust, and try again.It took years of this cycle—build, fail, learn, rebuild. But eventually, through countless iterations, I landed on something that actually worked. Something that finally got me off the ground.Then in the fall of 2020—and on a total whim—I decided to write it all out and post it to Reddit.

The response floored me. Over 1,000 upvotes, then an outpouring of comments, awards, and thankful DMs.The method had clearly struck a nerve with people fighting the same battles I was—and feeling the same frustration with everything else out there.

Energized, I kept going.Over the next few months, I shared more frameworks and reflections, each one deepening the conversation.Soon after, I launched a Substack. Then group programs. Then webinars where I could support people directly.And through it all, I had the surreal experience of watching hundreds of people not just relate to these ideas…but actually apply them—and see real change in their lives.

Meanwhile, my own progress was accelerating.I was hitting milestones I once thought were out of reach. And with each breakthrough, it became clearer what it actually takes to escape the grip of tech addiction and chronic procrastination.So I set out to build something different.Something deeper.Something that didn’t just inspire clarity—but created real, lasting change.I took everything I’d learned—from my own hard-won struggles and from coaching hundreds of others—and distilled it into a method that’s powerful, actionable, and most importantly… sustainable.And now, 5 years later, that method is ready.

The (new) Habit Reframe Method

This thing is different.See, most self-improvement systems start with a faulty assumption: your problem is a discipline problem.So they say things like:

And every time I’d see that, I’d think: Okay… but how??It's like being told that the secret to losing weight is to... eat less food. Just exercise self-control and maintain a calorie deficit.That’s perfectly logical advice… But also completely useless. It’s trivial. It doesn’t actually help.Now imagine flipping the script.Sticking with the weight loss analogy, what if, instead of seeking a way to force yourself to eat less, you found a way to make yourself want less food?What if you could just… feel less hungry, less often?In that case, willpower wouldn’t matter. Discipline wouldn’t matter.
You’d eat less—not because you forced it through self-control, but because the desire had changed.That’s what the Habit Reframe Method does.It’s not about coercing yourself to avoid vices through self-control. It’s about gradually changing what your brain wants to do. It's about:

• Decreasing your desire for the things you know you shouldn’t be wasting time on.

• Increase your motivation for the things you know you want to be doing.

And once that shift happens—once those subconscious drivers are reoriented—
getting unstuck doesn’t require willpower anymore.It becomes natural. Even inevitable.

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